“… In this world nothing can be said to be certain, except death and taxes.”
People don’t like to think about it, but we all know we are all going to die one day. (Hopefully not anytime soon!) Most people understand that there are things you need to do to ensure you leave your financial house in order when you pass on. It might mean writing a will, taking out life insurance, designating beneficiaries etc. Those are all important things to do, but don’t forget to have…
When a family member of ours passed away a few years ago, I am sure he believed he had checked all the boxes on the death to do list. The one thing he neglected to do, however, was to talk to the family about his last wishes.
His passing was sudden and unexpected and the entire family was in shock. They found themselves standing in a funeral home, talking to a funeral director, overwhelmed with the number of choices to make and the finality of those decisions. They wondered what he would have wanted and since they did not know they they were vulnerable to the sales pitch. It just didn’t feel right to object to the cost things.
So they did the best they could and arranged a beautiful funeral, but when it was over and they were alone, they were left with their grief and sticker shock.
Make sure you do what you need to do for the end including sharing your final wishes with your loved ones. Even if all you say is “I am sure that whatever choices you make will be the right ones.” It will provide a little bit of comfort, at a time when comfort is hard to come by.
Post Script: I decided to have “the final wishes talk” with my parents to make sure I understand what they want. My Mom snorted and told me that she could not care less what we do. She even offered that we could back the truck up and roll her body into a ditch somewhere and leave her there. A scenario I am sure my Dad has fantasized about more than once.
My Dad had put a little more thought into it and told me that he would like to be cremated and we were to scatter his ashes across 4 very distant countries.
I can’t win. Messy money runs in the family.This post featured in Friday Jet Fuel # 5 at Money Propeller.